Separation anxiety in dogs can turn even the most exciting travel plans into a stressful experience for both you and your pup. Whether you’re heading out for a short walk without them or gearing up for a big road trip, the signs are often heartbreaking: barking, pacing, drooling, and destruction.
As someone who’s dealt with travel anxiety firsthand with my Golden Retriever, Murphy, I know how overwhelming it feels to watch your dog struggle. Especially when your dream is to explore Australia together.. not leave them behind.
This guide breaks down what separation anxiety really looks like, what causes it (especially on the road), and proven ways to manage it both at home and while travelling. From simple training routines to calming tools that work in caravans or motels, I’ll help you feel prepared and your dog feel secure.
Let’s make every trip a little easier for both of you.
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What Is Separation Anxiety in Dogs?
Separation anxiety in dogs is a distress response that happens when a dog becomes overly anxious or panicked after being left alone even for a short time. It’s more than a bit of whining or a sad face as you leave; it’s a full emotional and physical reaction that can lead to destructive behaviour, excessive barking, drooling, pacing, or even attempts to escape.
Unlike boredom or general behavioural issues, separation anxiety is rooted in fear, not mischief. A bored dog might chew your shoes because they’re fun to destroy. A dog with separation anxiety chews the doorframe trying to get to you. That’s a big difference and understanding that difference changes the way you need to respond.
Behaviour Boredom Separation Anxiety
Still unsure whether your dog’s just bored or truly anxious? Here’s how to tell the difference.
| Behaviour | Boredom | Separation Anxiety |
|---|---|---|
| Chewing | Chews toys, shoes randomly | Targets doors, windows, escape points |
| Vocalising | May bark at random triggers | Barks or howls only when left alone |
| Energy level | Restless but settles with activity | Pacing, drooling, can’t settle down |
| Trigger | Lack of stimulation | Absence of a bonded human |
| Response to return | Mild excitement | Extreme, frantic greeting, hard to calm |
Recognising the difference helps you choose the right path forward because discipline or extra walks won’t solve true separation anxiety. It’s not about tiring your dog out physically (though that helps), it’s about helping them feel safe when you’re not there.
If your dog’s behaviour worsens the moment you walk out the door and they’re still unsettled when you return, it’s likely more than boredom. Some dogs even refuse food or water when they’re left alone, and that level of stress needs compassionate, targeted support.
Why It Matters When Travelling
On the road, it’s easy to mistake separation anxiety for motion sickness or general stress. But if your dog’s fine when you’re around and panics the moment you leave, even just to use a public bathroom it’s likely separation anxiety, not travel nerves.
If your dream is to travel Australia with your dog, and you notice they can’t cope when you leave the van or cabin without them, this post will guide you through what’s really going on and what you can start doing today.
Still unsure whether it’s boredom or true separation anxiety?
A simple pet camera like the Furbo or Eufy Pet Cam can give you a window into your dog’s world when you’re gone. You might be surprised what’s really happening.
Furbo Dog Camera
Furbo allows you to see, talk to, and give treats to your dog remotely, helping to alleviate anxiety by maintaining a sense of connection.
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This device also offers treat-dispensing capabilities, along with HD video streaming and two-way audio, providing both comfort and entertainment for your dog.
Every dog deserves to feel safe at home or on the road. And so do you. If you’re unsure whether it’s separation anxiety or another issue, I recommend starting with a few observations using a pet camera or asking someone to monitor your dog’s behaviour when you leave.
You might be surprised what you see and it could give you the clarity to move forward with confidence.
Spotting Separation Anxiety in Dogs: Key Signs to Watch For
If your dog becomes distressed the moment you’re out of sight, it could be more than just missing you, it might be a sign of separation anxiety. And when you’re travelling, recognising those early signs becomes even more important. A new environment can trigger anxiety in ways that don’t happen at home, especially if your dog already struggles with independence.
The signs of separation anxiety in dogs aren’t always obvious at first, and they often show up differently depending on the environment. Whether you’re leaving them home alone for an hour or stepping out of a caravan for a quick errand, the symptoms are rooted in the same feeling; panic when you’re not nearby.
Here’s a quick breakdown of the most common dog anxiety symptoms and how they might look both at home and on the road:
Symptom At Home While Travelling
| Symptom | At Home | While Travelling |
|---|---|---|
| Excessive Barking | Starts within minutes of you leaving | May bark when you’re out of sight in caravan park |
| Destructive Chewing | Targets doors, window frames, personal items | Chews at the caravan door, bed, leash |
| Pacing or Restlessness | Moves in circles or back and forth | Paces inside small spaces like cabins or vans |
| Escape Attempts | Scratches doors, jumps fences | Tries to bolt from tents, trailers, or playpens |
| Panting/Drooling | Stress-induced panting when alone | Visible panting or drooling when you step out |
| House Soiling | Toilets inside despite being house trained | May toilet in caravan even after being outside |
Some of the earliest signs are easy to miss like your dog constantly following you from room to room, or being unable to settle even when tired. If your dog greets you as though you’ve been gone for days, even after a short absence, that’s often a red flag.
On the road, the signs can be harder to interpret. If you’ve ever ducked into a servo and come back to find your dog barking relentlessly or clawing at the van door, that’s not just frustration – that’s stress. And it can quickly escalate.
Here’s a quick checklist of early signs of dog stress while travelling:
- Whining or barking as soon as you’re out of view
- Refusing food or water while alone
- Chewing familiar bedding or travel crates
- Restless pacing even in safe spaces
- Scratching or biting at exit points
- Settling only when you’re physically close
If your dog seems calm while you’re moving but stressed when you leave them stationary say, at a pet-friendly motel or parked camper, they may be struggling more with separation than the travel itself.
When Murphy first started showing signs of car anxiety, it wasn’t obvious right away. It was the way he’d drool excessively and avoid eye contact after short breaks, or freeze up when it was time to hop back in the car. That same nervous energy is often seen in dogs with separation anxiety, especially when they’re in unfamiliar places and unsure if you’re coming back.
You know your dog best, but if any of these signs sound familiar, you’re not alone. The sooner you recognise what’s happening, the sooner you can start easing the stress for both of you.
Many separation issues start in those early weeks, so understanding the puppy development stages can help you spot red flags and build healthy habits before they stick.
Common Causes of Dog Separation Anxiety
Understanding why separation anxiety develops is the first step to easing your dog’s distress. It’s rarely caused by just one thing as more often, it’s a mix of past experiences, routine changes, and a strong bond with you that makes being apart feel overwhelming.
The most common causes of separation anxiety in dogs come down to emotional triggers, environmental changes, and sometimes, even genetics. If you’ve ever wondered “Why does my dog get so anxious when I leave?” you’re not alone, and there are some clear patterns that can help you get to the bottom of it.
Let’s explore a few of the main ones:
Emotional and Behavioural Triggers
Rescue or Shelter History
Dogs adopted from shelters often carry emotional baggage. They may have experienced abandonment, neglect, or multiple homes and being left alone again can reignite that trauma. These dogs often become hyper-attached to their new owners, terrified they’ll be left behind again.
Over-Attachment
Some dogs never learn how to be independent, especially if they’ve spent most of their time with you. If your dog follows you from room to room and panics when they can’t see you, they may be overly bonded. While that loyalty is beautiful, it can also be a major source of anxiety.
Sudden Changes in Routine
Dogs thrive on predictability. Something as simple as returning to work after being home more often, or changing your daily schedule, can unsettle your dog. If your dog was fine before, but now shows signs of anxiety when left alone, a shift in your routine might be the trigger.
Environmental Causes (At Home and On the Road)
Dogs are incredibly sensitive to their surroundings. When you travel, you’re asking them to adapt to new smells, sounds, spaces, and routines and for dogs with underlying anxiety, that can be overwhelming.
You might not notice it at first, but here’s what can tip them over the edge:
- Unfamiliar Locations: Staying in a new place (like a holiday rental or caravan park) strips away your dog’s sense of familiarity. They may not understand this new space is temporary, and that you’re coming back.
- Unusual Sounds or Smells: Dogs rely on scent and sound for security. A noisy campsite or unfamiliar street sounds outside a cabin window can keep them on edge.
- Lack of Clear Routine: If walks, feeds, and bedtimes vary daily while travelling, it adds uncertainty. Without consistency, your dog may feel lost and begin to cling to you even more tightly.
Why Travel Can Trigger or Worsen Separation Anxiety
Even if your dog seems excited about the adventure, travel routines can spark anxiety, especially if they’re used to stability.
Think about this:
- Are you parking somewhere new every few days?
- Do you disappear into shops or campsites while your dog waits in the car or van?
- Is your dog spending more time alone in unfamiliar surroundings?
All of this can create anxiety not just about being alone, but about the unpredictability of when you’ll return or what’s going to happen next.
One dog owner I spoke to told me their dog was fine at home but wouldn’t stop barking when left in the van (even for five minutes). The trigger wasn’t being alone, it was being alone somewhere unfamiliar. That distinction matters, especially when planning a long trip.
So if your dog’s anxiety seems worse while travelling, it doesn’t mean the trip is the problem. It just means they need a little extra support adjusting to the changes.
And that’s completely manageable with the right plan in place.
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Get the Free GuideHow to Manage Separation Anxiety at Home
Managing separation anxiety in dogs starts with building confidence and creating a routine that helps them feel secure even when you’re not around. At home, you’ve got the advantage of a familiar environment. That means you can gradually teach your dog how to feel safe when they’re alone, without the added stress of travel.
If you’ve ever walked out the door only to return to barking, chewed furniture, or a panting, panicked dog, you know just how intense dog anxiety when alone can be. But the good news? With consistency and the right tools, you can help them stay calm while you’re away.
Start with a Predictable Daily Routine
Dogs thrive on routine. When they know what to expect including meals, walks, playtime, and rest, they feel more in control, even if you’re not physically there.
A strong routine should include:
- Morning exercise to burn off energy and reduce anxious energy
- Scheduled alone time, even when you’re home. Start with a few minutes and build up
- Calm departures and returns, no big goodbyes, no over-the-top greetings
- Regular feeding times to give structure and stability
If your dog knows they’ll be walked, fed, and have downtime at the same times each day, it creates a sense of safety and over time, this predictability helps reduce stress around being left alone.
Create a Calm, Safe Space
If your dog is anxious, they need a spot in the house that feels like a safe zone, not a punishment zone. Whether it’s a crate, a spare room, or a cosy nook, consistency matters.
Set the space up with:
- A soft bed or crate they already love
- Familiar scents (try a worn t-shirt or blanket)
- Their favourite long-lasting chew or treat toy (stuffed Kongs are perfect)
- Calming music or white noise to drown out external sounds
If you’re using a crate, make sure it’s a positive place. Never use it as a punishment. Instead, encourage your dog to go there on their own and reward calm behaviour with treats or praise. Over time, it becomes a signal: “You’re safe here, even when I’m not home.”
Mental Stimulation = A Calmer Dog
Sometimes, dog anxiety symptoms show up simply because your dog has too much unspent mental energy. The goal isn’t just to tire them out physically; it’s to help them think, solve, explore, and stay engaged even when you’re not home.
- Add simple brain-boosting activities to their day:
- Puzzle toys like the Outward Hound Brick Puzzle or Snuffle Mats for meals
- Basic training sessions (even 5 minutes of “sit, stay, come” helps build confidence)
- Hide-and-seek games with treats around the house
Dogs that are mentally satisfied are less likely to obsess about your absence. They’re more focused on the challenge in front of them and that’s exactly what you want.
Calming Tools to Support Your Routine
In some cases, a little extra help makes a big difference. There’s no shame in using tools to help your dog feel safe. In fact, many owners see better results when calming products are used alongside routine and training.
Some of the most helpful options at home include:
- Adaptil Diffusers: These plug-in pheromone diffusers mimic the natural calming scent of a mother dog which is helpful in a designated rest area.
- White Noise Machines: Constant background noise can mask outside triggers and settle anxious pups, especially in busy households or apartments.
- Natural Calming Aids: Products like Vetalogica Tranquil Treats or CBD oil (Vet-approved) may help take the edge off when used under supervision.
I always recommend checking with your vet before adding anything new to your routine, especially for long-term use, but many pet owners (myself included) have seen great results with calming aids when anxiety levels are high.
If you’re planning to travel in future and your dog struggles with separation anxiety at home, working through these steps now is one of the best things you can do.
Travel introduces a whole new set of challenges but a dog who’s already confident with alone time will adjust much more easily when the environment changes.
And if you’re not sure where to start, I can help you build a routine or find the right calming tools for your dog’s needs just reach out or explore more of our dog anxiety tips here on my blog.
Training Techniques That Actually Work
If your dog panics the moment you leave, training is one of the most effective ways to ease that stress over time. The key is desensitisation and counter-conditioning (two behaviour-based methods proven to reduce dog separation anxiety) in a gentle, long-lasting way.
Unlike quick fixes, this training teaches your dog that being alone isn’t scary. Instead of fearing your absence, they learn to stay calm, knowing you’ll return and that something good usually happens while you’re gone.
And whether you’re working on this at home or on the road, the approach is the same: start small, reward calm, and build trust slowly.
What Is Desensitisation?
Desensitisation means helping your dog get used to being alone without triggering full-blown anxiety. It’s about exposing them to your departure gradually so they realise it’s no big deal.
Here’s how it might look:
- Begin with just a few seconds of being out of sight (literally stepping out the front door or out of the caravan)
- Return calmly before your dog shows signs of distress
- Repeat consistently, slowly increasing the time you’re away
- Only increase the duration once your dog stays relaxed at the current stage
It sounds simple, but for dogs with anxiety, even two minutes can be a win. The goal is to avoid reaching the point where panic sets in. That way, your dog builds positive experiences around being alone, without stress.
How Counter-Conditioning Complements It
While desensitisation is about timing, counter-conditioning is about changing emotional associations. It works by pairing your departure with something your dog loves; so instead of fearing you leaving, they start to look forward to it.
Try:
- Giving a long-lasting treat (like a frozen Kong with peanut butter or wet food) just before you leave
- Offering a snuffle mat or food puzzle that only comes out during alone time
- Leaving behind an enrichment toy that encourages calm behaviour
The trick is to reserve these items only for times when you leave. Over time, your dog begins to associate your absence with something rewarding, not frightening.
Real-Life Routines: Home vs Travel
Consistency is everything. Below are examples of how you might structure your training at home compared to when you’re away from familiar surroundings:
| Training Phase | At Home | While Travelling |
|---|---|---|
| Step 1: Short Absence | Step outside the front door for 30 seconds | Walk a short loop around the caravan or cabin |
| Step 2: Routine Building | Leave house with a Kong, return calmly | Go to the camp bathroom, leave calming toy |
| Step 3: Vary Duration | Start mixing up 2–10 minute absences | Head to nearby kiosk or servo for quick trips |
| Step 4: Real Absences | Drive around the block, increase separation | Go for a walk out of sight, return calmly |
The idea is the same in both places which is to help your dog get used to you being gone without them panicking. It’s okay to go slowly. Some dogs progress quickly, others need days or even weeks at each stage.
If your dog already struggles with dog anxiety while travelling, start this training before your trip to build their confidence. Don’t wait until you’re in a busy caravan park or new rental as it’s much easier to train in a calm environment first.
Positive Reinforcement: Why It Matters
Dogs learn best when they’re rewarded for doing the right thing (not punished for being anxious). Every time your dog stays calm, even for a short separation, reward that moment with a treat, verbal praise, or playtime once you’re back.
Avoid big greetings or emotional reactions. Calm behaviour in = calm energy out. Also, watch for tiny wins:
- Your dog didn’t bark when you picked up your keys
- They settled in their bed while you walked outside
- They stayed calm during a 5-minute break from sight
Those are huge when you’re working with an anxious pup.
Building trust through training won’t change everything overnight—but with consistency, you’ll start seeing small shifts in your dog’s behaviour. And those small shifts are what lead to bigger breakthroughs.
Understanding the diagnostic process can help you get the right support for your dog and tailor the most effective treatment plan.
Best Tools and Products to Help Your Dog Stay Calm
Whether you’re managing separation anxiety in dogs at home or on the road, having the right tools makes a world of difference. These aren’t gimmicks; they’re calming aids and enrichment products that support your training, routine, and environment.
When used the right way, they can help your dog stay settled, reduce stress, and even begin to enjoy solo time. But like anything else, it’s all about choosing the tools that match your dog’s needs and making sure they’re introduced gradually.
Let’s break it down into what actually works.
Comfort Spaces: Crates and Travel Dens
When used correctly, crates can help your dog feel safe – not confined. The key is to introduce them as a positive space, not a punishment.
- At home: Try something like the K&H Pet Products Crate Pad to make the crate a soft, calming place.
- On the road: Use a foldable soft crate that doubles as a familiar den while travelling. Soft crates like the EliteField 3-Door Soft Dog Crate pack down easily and are perfect for caravans or rentals.
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Pro Tip
Add a worn t-shirt with your scent to help your dog feel more secure, especially in unfamiliar places.
Mental Stimulation Tools
Keeping your dog’s brain busy is one of the most effective ways to combat dog anxiety when alone, especially when paired with counter-conditioning.
- Snuffle Mats: A must-have for dogs with anxiety. Scatter dry food or treats into a snuffle mat to mimic natural foraging.
- Interactive Toys: Look for puzzle feeders or treat-dispensing toys. One of my go-to recommendations is the KONG Wobbler, which keeps dogs occupied and mentally stimulated.
- Frozen Enrichment: Stuff a KONG Classic with wet food, peanut butter, or leftovers and freeze it for longer-lasting distraction.
These tools aren’t just boredom busters, they create a positive emotional link with being alone.
Need more ideas? Visit my Dog Puzzle Toy Guide for tried-and-tested favourites.
Calming Aids That Actually Help
Some dogs need a little extra support beyond routine and training. That’s where calming aids come in. They’re not meant to “fix” separation anxiety, but when used correctly, they can take the edge off especially when combined with a strong routine.
Here are some options worth exploring:
Pheromone Sprays & Diffusers
Products like Adaptil Spray or Diffuser mimic a mother dog’s calming scent. Use sprays on your dog’s bedding, or plug a diffuser near their resting space.
White Noise Machines
Consistent sound can drown out barking dogs, traffic, or campground noise. There are even Spotify playlists designed for dogs which are Murphy’s favourites and on my free calming audio guide here.
Thundershirts
Thundershirts are snug-fitting wraps that apply gentle pressure to help calm anxious dogs. Perfect for both travel and home, they provide comfort and security, making stressful situations like car rides or storms much more manageable for your pet.
Supplements & Vet-Approved Medications
If your dog’s anxiety is moderate to severe, supplements or medication might be needed always under guidance from your vet.
- Natural Calming Chews: Brands like Vetalogica Tranquil Treats or Zylkene use ingredients like L-theanine and tryptophan to promote relaxation.
- CBD for Dogs: CBD oil is becoming a popular option for managing dog anxiety symptoms. Just make sure it’s vet-approved and safe for pets.
- Prescription Medication: For some dogs, anti-anxiety medication (e.g. fluoxetine or clomipramine) is necessary, even short-term. Your vet will help decide what’s best.
Valley Naturals Hemp Oil For Cat And Dog
Green Valley Naturals Hemp Oil offers a natural solution to calm anxiety in cats and dogs. Packed with Omega-3 fatty acids, this all-natural supplement promotes relaxation, overall wellness, and supports a healthy mind and body for your furry friend.
Pro Tip
If your dog has severe symptoms or you’re unsure what’s right for them, always chat to your vet before starting anything new. No supplement replaces training but the right one can make a huge difference.
Travel-Friendly Gear for Anxious Dogs
When you’re on the road, you need tools that are portable, easy to set up, and create comfort anywhere.
Here’s what I recommend:
Portable Soft Crate
The Portable Soft Crate is perfect for on-the-go pets, providing a comfortable and secure space wherever you are. Easy to set up and travel with, it’s a great choice for creating a familiar environment for your pet, anytime, anywhere.
Calming Bed or Mat
The Calming Bed or Mat provides a soft, familiar space for your dog, making it easier for them to relax in new environments. Perfect for travel or transitions, it offers comfort and security wherever you go.
Treat-Dispensing Toys
Treat-Dispensing Toys are a must-have for travel, perfect for campgrounds, rest stops, or cafes. These toys keep your dog entertained and mentally stimulated, while rewarding them with treats, making any stop a fun, engaging experience.
Adaptil Spray
Keep Adaptil Spray in your glovebox or bag for quick relief. Spray before leaving your dog alone in the car or van to reduce anxiety, promoting calmness and comfort in stressful situations while you’re away.
Collapsible Stellaire Snuffle Mat
The Collapsible Snuffle Mat packs flat for easy storage and provides mental stimulation on the go. Perfect for travel, it helps keep your dog entertained and engaged by encouraging them to use their nose to find treats.
Having the right calming products is like having a toolkit, one that supports your dog while you do the real work through training, patience, and a consistent routine.
Use these tools wisely, and you’ll notice more confidence, less stress, and better behaviour over time whether you’re leaving for work or setting up camp in a new town.
Want to see what else to pack for when travelling? My 10 Dog Camping Essentials You Must Pack in Australia post includes beds, toys, and travel-safe gear all tailored to dogs who love camping.
Real-Life Example: Treating Murphy’s Travel Anxiety
I always knew I wanted to travel around Australia with a dog. What I didn’t expect was adopting a Golden Retriever who absolutely hated the car.
Murphy’s travel anxiety showed up early. Even short drives made him drool, tremble, and resist getting in. By the time we returned home from our first weekend getaway, he was so distressed it took over 24 hours for him to recover. He refused to eat, didn’t want to leave his bed, and just looked completely defeated.
At first, I tried all the usual things, windows down, breaks every 15 minutes, new bedding in the boot. Nothing worked.
It was heartbreaking.
What We Tried (And What Didn’t Work)
I don’t want to gloss over this part because it’s important to be real. I tried treats in the car. I tried short local drives to nowhere. I tried sitting in the back seat with him while someone else drove. But nothing made a difference.
In fact, some things made it worse as he started associating the car with stress, not fun.
The turning point came when I stopped trying to rush it.
What Actually Helped
Our vet prescribed Acepromazine, which we give him 30 minutes before a long drive. This alone took the edge off his panic response. It didn’t “fix” anything but it made the car tolerable.
I also bought HomoPet, a natural calming supplement, which helps with the anxiety. He still drools but is far less than before AND we are yet to have sickly accident which is a postive sign.
HomeoPet
HomeoPet is a natural, non-sedative calming supplement designed to reduce stress and anxiety in dogs. Ideal for travel, vet visits, or loud noises, it helps your pet stay relaxed without the use of harsh chemicals.
Here’s what’s helped most:
- Routine: Every car trip starts the same way. Same bed, same lead, same words. Predictability matters.
- Exercise beforehand: A long walk or a short training session before a drive makes a big difference.
- No pressure to stay in the car: Some days, we just sit in the parked car with the boot open and a lick mat. No movement, no expectation.
- Short trips with long rewards: A 5-minute drive to a quiet park where he gets a sniff walk or a puzzle treat creates a positive link.
It’s still a work in progress but he now gets in the car with much less resistance. That’s a huge win in our world.
Why I’m Sharing This
Not every dog loves to travel, and that’s okay. What matters is meeting them where they’re at. If you’re dealing with dog anxiety while travelling, I know how overwhelming it can feel especially when you’ve built your whole dream around the idea of pet-friendly adventures.
I want you to know you’re not doing it wrong. You’re doing the best you can with the dog you love and that’s what matters.
If you’re looking for simple ways to slowly help your dog enjoy travel too, start with How to Overcome Dog Car Anxiety for tips you can try today, based on what helped Murphy.
When to Get Professional Help
There’s no shame in needing support. In fact, if your dog’s anxiety is starting to affect their quality of life (or yours) it’s time to bring in a professional. Not everything can (or should) be fixed with DIY training, supplements, or enrichment toys alone.
When it comes to separation anxiety in dogs, knowing when to ask for help can save you months of frustration and avoid putting your dog through unnecessary stress.
How Do You Know It’s Time?
You’ve tried training, calming aids, routine, exercise, and your dog still…
- Panics the second you leave
- Hurts themselves trying to escape
- Refuses to eat or drink when alone
- Destroys crates or household items
- Shows no improvement despite weeks of effort
These are red flags that it’s more than a mild behavioural issue. If you’re dealing with dog anxiety symptoms this severe, it likely won’t improve without the help of someone trained to spot the deeper triggers.
Behaviourist vs Vet: Who Should You Call?
Vets are your first port of call when you’re unsure whether the behaviour is medical or emotional. They’ll help rule out underlying issues like pain, illness, or cognitive decline (especially in senior dogs).
They’re also the right person to speak to about:
- Medication (short- or long-term)
- Natural supplements like CBD
- Stress-related health issues like vomiting, diarrhoea, or weight loss
Behaviourists (or certified dog trainers with anxiety experience) go a step further. They’ll work with you one-on-one to create a structured plan, especially if your dog isn’t responding to general advice or training books.
They help with:
- Creating gradual desensitisation plans
- Customising routines around your dog’s triggers
- Supporting both at-home and travel scenarios
- Teaching you how to handle setbacks or regression
A great behaviourist doesn’t just train your dog; they empower you with tools you can use long after the sessions end.
But What If You’re Travelling?
That’s a common concern and it’s absolutely possible to get support even on the road.
- Virtual Consultations: Many trainers and behaviourists offer online sessions via Zoom or FaceTime. Perfect for travellers or remote areas.
- Vet Telehealth: Some pet insurance providers include virtual vet access, or you can book one-off appointments via services like Pawssum or Vetchat.
- Pet Communities: Join local dog groups (or broader networks like my Pet Adventures Australia Facebook group) to ask for local vet or trainer recommendations when you’re in a new town.
Pro Tip
Always look for positive reinforcement-based behaviourists. Avoid anyone using outdated punishment-based methods—they often make anxiety worse.
If You’re Still Unsure
If you’re on the fence about whether your dog’s behaviour is “serious enough” to call in help, take a moment to ask yourself:
- Is their anxiety impacting our day-to-day life?
- Am I feeling stuck, stressed, or unsure what to do next?
- Is my dog’s behaviour getting worse over time?
If the answer is yes, support isn’t just helpful, it’s essential. There’s no one-size-fits-all with separation anxiety. And the sooner you get guidance tailored to your dog, the faster you’ll both start to feel relief.
Still feel unsure? How to Raise a Travel-Ready Dog includes a section on when to seek support and how to work through real-life anxiety scenarios on the road and at home.
Frequently Asked questions
Q1. Can dogs grow out of separation anxiety?
Sometimes but not always. Some puppies with mild anxiety do improve as they mature, especially if they’re exposed to positive alone-time experiences early on. But in many cases, especially if left untreated, anxiety can persist (or even get worse.)
Dogs don’t usually “grow out” of it on their own. They need consistent training, a stable routine, and support that teaches them being alone is safe.
If your dog’s anxiety seems to be improving, that’s great but stay consistent with your approach. If it worsens, that’s your cue to start a structured plan or speak to a behaviourist.
Q2. What’s the best medication for separation anxiety in dogs?
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer. Vets commonly prescribe:
- Fluoxetine (Prozac): An SSRI for long-term anxiety management
Clomipramine - (Clomicalm): A tricyclic antidepressant for moderate to severe anxiety
Alprazolam (Xanax) used short-term or situationally (e.g. before car trips)
Some owners prefer natural options like CBD (Hemp) oil or calming chews with L-theanine, valerian root, or chamomile but these should still be vet-approved.
Medication alone won’t “fix” the issue. It works best alongside desensitisation and counter-conditioning to help your dog feel safe when alone.
Q3. Is crate training cruel for anxious dogs?
Not if it’s done correctly. When used as a safe space, not a punishment, crate training can actually reduce anxiety. It gives your dog a calm, familiar area to relax especially helpful while travelling or staying in new environments.
But if your dog panics when confined or has past trauma linked to crates, forcing crate time can make things worse. You’ll need to slowly re-introduce the crate with positive reinforcement and give them full control over going in and out. You might also try pen setups or small gated rooms as an alternative.
I didn’t crate-train Murphy because of his car anxiety, but many dogs find crates incredibly comforting especially when paired with something like a Kong, snuffle mat, or an Adaptil diffuser.
Q4. Can I travel with a dog that has separation anxiety?
Yes, but it takes planning, patience, and flexibility.
Travelling with a dog that has separation anxiety means rethinking routines. You’ll need to:
- Limit time apart
- Choose accommodation where dogs can stay with you
- Use calming tools like white noise, Adaptil sprays, or travel-friendly crates
- Bring familiar items from home (their bed, blanket, or toys)
- Stick to predictable schedules as much as possible
Murphy’s anxiety is linked to car travel, so I’ve had to adjust how we travel rather than giving up on the idea. The key is finding your dog’s comfort zone and working within it. If you’re not sure where to start, ‘How to Calm Your Dog’s Car Anxiety’ is the gentlest place to begin.
It’s my step-by-step calm-car guide designed for dogs who worry, fuss, or freeze before drives, and it’s now included inside the Road-Ready Dog Toolkit so you can follow a simple plan without guessing.
Conclusion
Separation anxiety in dogs isn’t just a phase or something you can ignore; it’s a real emotional struggle for your dog, and it can feel just as overwhelming for you. Whether you’re dealing with barking at home, pacing in a caravan park, or those heartbreaking eyes when you grab your keys, please know this:
You’re not alone, and you’re not doing anything wrong.
Every anxious dog needs something a little different, but they all need patience, routine, and understanding. With the right strategies, calming tools, and gentle support (even while travelling), your dog can learn to feel safe when you’re not there.
And when they do? It changes everything.
Next step: Explore my guides on training routines, anxiety triggers, and safe travel strategies, including practical support to help your dog feel secure, calm, and confident, wherever you are.
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