Earlier this week a notification to adopt a Golden Retriever puppy in a neighboring suburb was sent to me. I had been searching for a Golden puppy for a very long time, following groups on social media reading about other families introduce their furry bundles of joy into their homes. I thought finally, maybe is this my time to get a puppy, a new addition to my family?
Answering the ad for a Golden Retriever Puppy
As soon as I read the ad, I discussed the idea with my partner who was happy to adopt a Golden Retriever puppy knowing how much I wanted one. I immediately sent through an enquiry and was contacted by the breeder who shared details about the litter, the parents, breeding history, behaviours, colourings and any other questions I had.
Being a co-owner of Murray who is a pure white Golden Retriever, I was drawn to a light coloured male and was recommended an adorable boy who was special as had a stunted tail. I had to meet him and we agreed to a time the next day.
I laid in bed awake thinking about the reality of a new Golden Retriever puppy moving into our home. How was it going to work with a full-time job requiring me to be in the office 5 days a week and a partner who travels interstate on a frequent basis? I grew more and more concerned that the little guy would perhaps not get the time, love and care he needed and deserved.
Immediate doubts had entered my mind.
I am fortunate to work with a manager who is supportive about a dog-friendly office however I work for large global brand housing over 200 employees and if everyone bought their pets to work on a regular basis, it just would not work. My partner’s workplace was not suitable either given the type of work he does and travels frequently.
Considering the work from home arrangement but as this is infrequent, this too was not a feasible solution. I was getting more and more doubtful as the day went on, do I even meet the puppy?
meeting the Golden Retriever puppies
In speaking to a colleague, I was advised to not meet him knowing how hard it will be to say no if that was to be our final decision. I wanted to discuss these concerns with the breeder for a 2nd opinion, so I continued as scheduled.
Later that day, I met 8 gorgeous 4-week old Golden Retriever puppies and 2 beautiful Goldens (mum and dad) and was instant love. I knew I was with a loving, caring and experienced breeder.
I was handed this adorable little boy to cuddle and knew how much I wanted to give him an amazing life. He was already different from his brothers and sisters in that he had a short tail being assured it would not impact his health. I knew in my heart, if I was to adopt him that he would be given so much love but I could not escape the doubts with leaving him for 8-10 hours each day.
Discussing pet adoption concerns with breeder
I wanted to be open, honest and upfront with the breeder and told her how much I loved the puppy but was extremely concerned about our living situation and work commitments. Perhaps the puppy would be better suited to a family who can give it more time?
She asked me some questions about our backyard, other pets and was quite reassuring that he would be happy and would quickly adjust especially in that it would have a part-time friend with Murray. I was still doubtful as had to put the puppies needs first. I left heartbroken, even shedding a small tear.
deciding not to adopt a puppy
In researching our situation further to validate “when is the right time to get a puppy”, the answers resonated with my concerns and placed us at ease.
We both agreed to not proceed with the adoption.
Did we make the right decision? I would love to say no, but given our situation today with both of our work schedules yes we did. I hope in time I will be able to share the exciting news of a new puppy joining my family as there is nothing I would love more.
- You have no prior Experience With Dogs
- You Have Other Pets
- You Don’t Have the Time or Patience for Training
- You Have a Baby or Young Child Already
- You Are on a Tight Budget
- You Want to Give a Dog as a Christmas of Birthday Present
- You’re Adopting Because the Puppy Is Really Cute
- Your Family Moves Around a Lot
- You Haven’t Done Research on the Breed
- You Are Never Home During the Day
“One thing people quickly learn about having a puppy is that they require all of their attention. Just like a human baby, puppies can get into trouble pretty quickly if they aren’t being watched. Leaving them alone for even a minute can be disastrous!
Also, much like children, puppies need a lot of affection. If work keeps someone from being home during the day, and the rest of the family has school or other activities that require their time, adopting a puppy should be reconsidered. If no one is there to play with and watch after the puppy, he will become anxious and/or bored and destroy different things in the house.
Think of it as if the puppy were your own baby (which he is, in a way). Babies should never be left unattended, and neither should dogs! Locking up the puppy to avoid them messing up the house and using the bathroom while the family is away, ends up being counterproductive. Many puppies’ behavior worsens because of the lack of exercise and attention leaving them locked up hours a day causes.
Puppies of any breed have a lot of energy and keeping that energy pent up can lead to chewing, running in the house, chasing the other animals, and other bad behaviors no owner wants to deal with after working during the day.”